Do you talk or argue?
"A discussion is called to that conversation that is established between two or more individuals and that is characterized mainly by the exchange of opinions, points of view, ideas and beliefs about a certain topic."
Discussing (not fighting, yelling or insulting), with another person, gives you the opportunity to present your ideas and points of view about a certain topic. If you give time and listen to the other person without interruptions, and he/she in turn lets you express what you think (without getting angry or draw anticipatory conclusions), it will allow both to know why they think as they do about the subject in question.
The difference between talking just for the sake of talking and discussing a topic, is that you establish a communication with the other, it isn’t just waiting for him/her to finish talking, in order to continue with your own idea.
Grandmothers always recommend: “never argue about religion or politics, because you will never agree.”
And it is very true, but if there is a way to know a person deeply, it is precisely by discussing these two issues. There you will know his/her roots, logic, intelligence, as well as his/her hatreds and traumas.
Normally among friends many issues are discussed openly and this somehow establishes that bond of knowledge and affection between them. And also, for reasons such as grief, fear of misunderstandings and lack of patience, normally, it is not easy to argue with the couple as we do with friends.
For this reason, many people prefer to “never argue”; but while this avoids many conflicts, doing it in a moderate, mature and non-judgmental way helps a lot to clarify things and make our point of view clear.
You have to be careful, because it isn’t easy to find someone with whom you can discuss; there are people with whom you should definitely never discuss any topic, and maybe you are one of them.
